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Please Don’t Hold Me at Arm’s Length

Reading Time: 5 minutes Dear (family member), I’d like to talk to you for a minute about this…thing…that’s come between us.  Because we are family, our conversations remain warm and our mutual love is authentic.  For that I am grateful.  But amidst the warmth there remains an uncomfortable tension—an emotional distance—that wasn’t there before.  Things between us were pretty […]

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The Southern Baptist cafeteria

Reading Time: 3 minutes An ongoing series of posts while I’m writing In Faith and In Doubt, a book on the secular/religious mixed marriage. A few weeks ago I wrote about the difference between official Catholic doctrine and the actual beliefs of most Catholics. Later on I’ll write about the wide variation in nonreligious beliefs. Today it’s a quick […]

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The cover

Reading Time: 2 minutes I really wondered what direction the publisher would go for this cover, and once again, the design team at AMACOM Books did me proud. Every cover design process gives me hives. So far they’ve all turned out really well: The non-praying mother-child hands of Parenting Beyond Belief, the curious kid on Raising Freethinkers, the solo […]

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Engage paddle drive!

Reading Time: < 1 minute A series of short posts while I’m writing a book on the secular/religious mixed marriage. Ever pedal a paddleboat? No you haven’t. No you haven’t, because the pedals on those damn things are attached to nothing. It’s like the DOOR CLOSE button on an elevator, or the pedestrian crossing button — just there to make […]

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STATURDAY: More inclusive, period

Reading Time: < 1 minute The Riley survey (conducted for Naomi Schaefer Riley’s book ‘Til Faith Do Us Part) asked married respondents to choose between the following statements: 1. It is better for everyone involved if a married couple have the same religion. 2. What really matters is that a married couple have the same values regardless of their religion. […]

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The Chill Grandma

Reading Time: 2 minutes Continuing to plow through the survey data, and I’ve come across a surprising result that relates to extended family. Of the four sides of our own extended family, one is gone, one is a mix of secular and religious, and two are very religious in belief and practice. Yet Becca and I have experienced very […]

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And we have a title!

Reading Time: < 1 minute The process of naming this book was longer than the process of naming my kids. But it’s done, and I’m very happy with it. I like titles concise and accurate, but also with a little poetry. Parenting Beyond Belief also happened after a long process, and I love it. The title of this book had […]

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STATURDAY: Mixed-belief marriages by age group

Reading Time: < 1 minute Younger people are statistically more comfortable with mixed marriages of all kinds, including race and religion. So it seems counterintuitive that the likelihood of marrying someone of a different worldview actually increases with age at marriage: • Married between age 16-25: 48% are in mixed-belief marriages • Married between age 26-35: 58% are in mixed-belief […]

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Finding the book

Reading Time: 2 minutes A series of short posts while I’m writing a book on the secular/religious mixed marriage. While I’m writing this one, I’m continuously “finding the book” — trying to refine my own sense of what the finished product will look like. Harder than usual, since this is mostly new ground. The chapter structure has been one […]