Reading Time: 3 minutes If you’ve ever been to a strip club on a weekend night, you have likely witnessed a mouth-breathing, hyper-masculinized, and liquored-up bachelor party. It’s why I loathed working weekends as a stripper. In fact, in the latter years of my career, I avoided them altogether if it could be helped. I made it through more […]
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An atheist candidate made a sex tape to boost his election platform
Reading Time: 3 minutes Somehow, the fact that Mike Itkis is an open atheist is one of the least interesting things about his campaign for Congress. Even if you’re not familiar with his name, you might be familiar with the headlines about how a long-shot candidate made a sex tape to promote his platform. Itkis is running as an […]
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We all have butts: Uncoupling nudity and sex from shame
Reading Time: 4 minutes By the time I hit puberty, my mother had left her Catholic body-shaming god behind. Her message to me was simple: Everybody’s got one.
Posted inTaboo
Tales from the strip club: Kitana
Reading Time: 6 minutes This tall Asian beauty was hard to miss in the club. Being about a foot shorter than her, I had the pleasure of talking to her boobs most of the time. If there was drama or a stripper beef in the club, it never involved Kitana. She had the type of presence and personality that […]
Posted inHealth
Hey preachers! The demons aren’t making you masturbate
Reading Time: 2 minutes Masturbation is both super and natural, but there is nothing supernatural about it. Not even in a good way. Your desire to pleasure yourself is not caused by angels or demons, but simply by your own wonderful physiology. But Christian preachers such as Vlad Saychuk, speaking at a National Deliverance Training Conference hosted by the notorious […]
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These Christian preachers have no idea how masturbation works
Reading Time: 2 minutes For the past few days, Christian hate-preacher Greg Locke has been hosting a “National Deliverance Training Conference” at his Global Vision Bible Church in Mount Juliet, Tennessee. Deliverance, in fundamentalist parlance, means saving people from demons. That implies that attendees all believe demons are actual, literal beings that cause people to do very bad things… […]
Posted inFree Expression
My favorite contradiction: Nail polish and femininity, feminism, and men’s liberation
Reading Time: 6 minutes When the world is suffering from a deadly pandemic, losses of fundamental human rights, and climate change caused by a capitalistic and Christian nationalist ethnostate, sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is look forward to the little things and engage in self-care. For me, that little thing is nail polish. Raised on […]
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Normalizing sexual diversity: How ‘meh’ can save the world
Reading Time: 4 minutes I have twin boys who turn 12 in a week. Having worked our way through the first two seasons of Netflix’s Locke & Key, we were happy to see the new season drop the other day. The series is certificated 15 in the UK, but it’s pretty appropriate for them. I am no puritan, but […]
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Take the Earth as your lover: Exploring ecosexuality
Reading Time: 4 minutes I moved to the Pacific Northwest in large part because of a spiritual connection with the land around me that I first experienced when traversing through the hills of Ireland. Little did I know that I was beginning my exploration of what life partners and collaborators Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens call “ecosexuality.” For those […]
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Celebrating the sex-positive power of the pussy
Reading Time: 3 minutes OnlySky · Celebrating the sex-positive power of the pussy with Eleanor O’Brien | Becky Garrison While the current “talk” about female sexuality may come off as sounding “sex-positive,” corporate media remains stuck in the era of Mad Men. Taboo topics remain taboo with sites such as OnlySky getting demonetized by their ad server for penning […]