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Her name was first spoken in hushed tones among children all over America [over] twenty years ago. Even in Sweden, folklorists reported Bloody Mary’s fame. Children of all races and classes told of the hideous demon conjured by chanting her name before a mirror in a pitch-dark room. And when she crashes through the glass, she mutilates children before killing them. Bloody Mary is depicted in Miami kids’ drawings with a red rosary that, the secret stories say, she uses as a weapon, striking children across the face.

from “Myths Over Miami” by Lynda Edwards


“Yeah, B?” It was Erin, my then nine-year-old, nicknamed The B.

“Can you come into the bathroom with me?”

“Why, you need to talk about something?” Our family has an odd habit: one person sits on the edge of the tub and chats up the person on the commode. A gift from my wife’s side.

“No…I’m scared to go in there.”

“It’s the middle of the day, B.”

“I know, but…Daddy, just come in with me.”

“Not until you tell me what you’re afraid of.”

She hesitated—then said, “The mirror.”

“What about the mirror?”

She leaned in and whispered, “Bloody Mary.”

Oh. A quiver-chill went through me. I was a kid again.

“Desirée at school says if you turn off the lights and turn around three times in front of the mirror with your eyes closed and say Bloody Mary Bloody Mary Bloody Mary, then open your eyes — a woman all covered in blood will be looking at you from in the mirror!”

I remembered exactly how it felt to hear such chilling things whispered by a true believer. Their wide-eyed conviction always did a fine job of convincing me as well. But in my day, Bloody Mary came crashing through the glass at you—a detail Erin didn’t seem to need to hear.

“So just go in, leave the light on, and don’t spin around or say the name, B.” It was a hopelessly lame thing to say. Once the concept is in your head, why, the very thought of Bloody Mary might conjure her up. She might appear just because she knows I know! And she knows I know she knows I know!

“Okay, I’ll go with you. But you know what I’m gonna do.”


We went eye to eye. “Sweetie, tell me the truth. Do you think Bloody Mary is real, or just a story?”

She looked away. “Just a story.”

“So why be afraid of a story?” Again, lame. Yes, it’s just a story—but ultimately, in our human hearts and reptile brains, such a defense is powerless against fear.

Her forehead puckered into a plead. “But even if she’s just a story—what if she comes anyway?”

I walked into the bathroom myself and pulled the curtains. She followed, timidly, cupping her hand by her eyes to avoid the vanity mirror. “You don’t have to come in if you don’t want to, B,” I said. She sat on the lid of the toilet, whimpering. I turned out the lights. Nooooohohohoho, she began to moan, with all the melodrama of the 4th grade.

Yes, it’s just a story—but ultimately, in our human hearts and reptile brains, such a defense is powerless against fear.

I walked to the mirror and began to turn. Bloody Mary, Bloody Mary, Bloody Mary! I opened my eyes. “See?” I knocked on the mirror. “Helloooooo! Hey lady! Look B, nobody’s home!”

Erin peeled her hands from her eyes and squealed with delight. “I’m gonna do it!”

She walked slowly to the mirror, trembling with anticipation. Bloody Mary, Bloody Mary…Bloody Mary! She peeked through her fingers.

“Eeeeeheeheeheehee!” she squealed delightedly, jumped up and down, hugged me.

But if you think she was cured—if you think Daddy’s words were really enough to slay the dragon—then you were never a kid. Maybe we said her name too fast, you see, or too slow, or or or maybe we didn’t believe in her enough. Maybe she can’t be tricked by skeptical dads into showing herself.

Erin didn’t say any of these things, but I know she was thinking them. And sure enough, the very next day, Erin was recruiting bodyguards to the bathroom again.

I haven’t tried to talk her out of it. To paraphrase Jonathan Swift, you can’t reason someone out of something they weren’t reasoned into. For a while, it’s even a little bit fun to believe such a thing is possible.

Thinking I could talk her out of it would also be denying an inescapable fact: that when I pulled my own hands from my eyes in that darkened bathroom and saw the mirror, the rationalist, just for a fraction of a second, dropped back and hid behind me as my little boy heart raced at the question that never quite goes away:

What if she comes anyway?

For one of the most hair-raising and powerful essays I’ve ever read, see the full text of Lynda Edwards’ gripping 1997 piece on the Bloody Mary story as told among the homeless children of Miami — complete with illustrations.

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Dale McGowan is chief content officer of OnlySky, author of Parenting Beyond Belief, Raising Freethinkers, and Atheism for Dummies, and founder of Foundation Beyond Belief (now GO Humanity). He holds a...