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During a conversation Thursday with Pastor Rob McCoy, his guest, preacher Gabriel Finochio, claimed that remaining celibate before marriage was vital because anyone — anyone! — who had sex before marriage couldn’t possibly remaining faithful during marriage.

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FINOCHIO: There are three types of chastity. There’s… single chastity, which is being a single person and abstaining from sex. But then there’s also marital chastity, where you abstain from having sex with people outside of marriage.

And I’ll just say this: that if you don’t practice chastity before marriage, you won’t have chastity after marriage. The men who are profligate, who are philanderers, before marriage — the men who are the playboys, living by the playboy philosophy — they are playboys after marriage…

MCCOY: Unless they’re a new creature in Christ.

Citation needed.

There’s absolutely no reason to trust these men and so many reasons to actively reject what they’re saying. Remaining a virgin before marriage doesn’t mean you’ll be faithful when you’re married. Having sex before marriage doesn’t mean you won’t be faithful in a marriage. Being Christian doesn’t change any of that.

Maybe if these men ever spoke to all those Christians who condemned “purity culture” and abstinence-only sex education, they would understand why their comments aren’t just ignorant, they’re harmful. But listening to other people seems outside their capabilities.

(Thanks to Kyle for the link)

Hemant Mehta is the founder of, a YouTube creator, podcast co-host, and author of multiple books about atheism. He can be reached at @HemantMehta.

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