Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Esther Perel has worked as a sex therapist with couples in dozens of countries, and thus she brings a cross-cultural awareness to this book about the whys and hows of sex, desire, and attraction in long-term relationships. This book is awesome because Perel distills insights from her career and makes them applicable to everyone. Everyone’s calibrated differently, but we all crave some balance between security/safety/intimacy/comfort and adventure/excitement/novelty/uncertainty. If you read this book, you’ll get a better understanding of the elements that compose sexual excitement, and how they operate in your life.