Reading Time: 3 minutes I work on boundaries, and I study shame… can and do they intersect? Sure. But that doesn’t mean they automatically do, or must.
Reading Time: 2 minutes Hate getting reeled in by hotness only to get snapped at for objectifying women? I hate that too. But that’s not what this post is actually about.
Reading Time: 3 minutes Emotional processing takes work. So does activism. Here’s what the two have in common: a natural distribution of styles across different people.
Reading Time: 2 minutes Part of learning to communicate involves learning to set boundaries. That’s different than tone policing, though. Here’s why.
Reading Time: 3 minutes If we’re going to talk about sexual consent and pleasure, we also need to talk about the messages aimed at masculine-identifying folks.
Reading Time: 3 minutes Colonizing someone’s brain space, when they haven’t consented to it, is a no-no when you’re working with sexual materials.
Reading Time: 5 minutes Sex positivity should be, essentially, a Choose Your Own Adventure story, with as many delicious, delightful variations as there are humans on this planet. This includes being able to set your own boundaries, to say “nope” to sexualized interactions.
Reading Time: 9 minutes As the religion becomes more and more extremist and polarized, we’ll be seeing more and more people damaged by it. Christianity–especially the right-wing versions of it–has managed to press into its adherents’ lives one of the cruelest and most heartless deceptions imaginable, and those adherents’ innocent children are the ones paying the price.
Reading Time: 10 minutes Every holiday season, my fellow deconverts have to put up with their families for the annual “Come to Jesus” speeches, the subtle and not-so-subtle attempts at evangelism, and the myriad other forms of manipulation that have kept them at a fair distance for all the other months of the year. All families have their passive-aggressive moments, […]
Reading Time: 11 minutes I grew up Christian and I still live in a culture that is Jesus-soaked—or perhaps as Flannery O’Connor once called it, Christ-haunted. It’s not so much that the Christians I know really make a habit of doing the things Jesus talked about doing. It’s more that the spectre of a Christian vocabulary lingers in everything […]