Reading Time: 7 minutes Today, let me show you how evangelicals’ broken system poisons members’ minds and relationships — and sows the seeds for marriages that are destined to fail.
Christian Views on Marriage
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How Evangelical Men Try to Divorce-Proof Their Marriages
Reading Time: 8 minutes Evangelicals in general absorb all kinds of bad advice about relationships, but today I want to show you what the men learn about leading happy marriages.
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How Evangelical Men Try (And Fail) to Pick Perfect Wives
Reading Time: 7 minutes We’ve been talking lately about right-wing Christians’ conceptualization of marriage. Uniformly, their marriage rules don’t work well, and their expectations of mates skyrockets well above what they can reasonably ask of anybody. But there’s one aspect to the evangelical dating game in particular that stands as a disaster amid everything else they do around marriage. Today, let me show you how evangelical leaders advise the men in their group to choose wives — and then we’ll check out who they actually pick.
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Carl Lentz and the Adulterous ‘Drug’ He Chased
Reading Time: 6 minutes The story of Carl Lentz’ pursuit of his mistress reminded me so much of other stories I’ve heard from adulterous evangelical men that I just had to bring it here. Today, let me show you the adulterous ‘drug’ that so many married evangelical men seek, and what their example shows us.
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The Day A.J. Kiesling Noticed Christian Men’s Fear of Divorce
Reading Time: 8 minutes ‘Perfect love casts out fear,’ wrote someone long ago. Going by that standard, today’s evangelical men clearly do not feel perfect love for the women of their tribe. I say that because hooboy, they are scared spitless of divorce.
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The Marriage Dilemma for Single Evangelicals
Reading Time: 7 minutes Not long ago, we reviewed a Christian book called Where Have All the Good Men Gone? In this book, author A.J. Kiesling sought to find out just why it was so incredibly hard for single evangelicals to find spouses to their liking. Then, we laid a lot of groundwork about the dysfunction going on in evangelicals’ marriage hunts and relationships. Today, I’ll show you the massive dilemma facing today’s single evangelicals — and what it tells us about evangelicals as a group.
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Rod Dreher: Fretting About Evangelical Men’s Boners — er, Civilization’s Future
Reading Time: 9 minutes Today, the ever-hilarious Rod Dreher clutches his pearls over young women’s lack of interest in sex with him right-wing Christian men — and then offers the tribe a non-solution to this non-problem that just so happens to enrich him personally.
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The Love Narrative Fouling Up the Evangelical Husband Hunt
Reading Time: 9 minutes A few days ago, we started talking about a 2008 book, Where Have All the Good Men Gone by A.J. Kiesling (who is one of those women). We’re discussing it to get some ideas of why single, middle-aged evangelical women just can’t find husbands within their faith community. And it turns out that one major hindrance for them is their own fixation on a particular love narrative — a cherished fantasy that interferes with the reality of their situation. Today, let me show you the false love narrative that holds these single evangelical women back — and how far they’re willing to go to hang onto it.
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Single Evangelical Women Ask ‘Where Have All the Good Men Gone’
Reading Time: 9 minutes I recently ran across a 2008 book by A.J. Kiesling called ‘Where Have All the Good Men Gone?’ Its subtitle reveals its main focus: ‘Why So Many Christian Women Are Remaining Single.’ And we’ll all be happy to know that she landed on some explanations for the growing number of frustrated single women. Today, I’ll offer up a review of this book — and present its main failing, an over-reliance on false narratives.
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Denial in the Great Husband Hunt: An Evangelical Horror Story
Reading Time: 12 minutes Hi and welcome back! Today, as we’ve been doing for a while now on Halloween, we turn our attention to one of the biggest horror stories in evangelicalism: the Great Evangelical Husband Hunt. This year, our tale centers on the husband-hunting evangelical women who’ve reached the denial phase of their failed hunt. (Some previous posts about […]