Reading Time: 7 minutes In a politically polarized America, it’s harder than ever to find a life partner who shares your beliefs. As a result, more and more young people are single. Here’s what men can do to improve their odds of finding love.
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Why Evangelicals Can’t Quit Transactional Thinking
Reading Time: 7 minutes Today, I want to show you why his request is impossible for evangelicals to obey. They can no more lose their transactional thinking than they can ever stop stiffing restaurant workers — and for the same basic reasons, too.
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The Love Narrative Fouling Up the Evangelical Husband Hunt
Reading Time: 9 minutes A few days ago, we started talking about a 2008 book, Where Have All the Good Men Gone by A.J. Kiesling (who is one of those women). We’re discussing it to get some ideas of why single, middle-aged evangelical women just can’t find husbands within their faith community. And it turns out that one major hindrance for them is their own fixation on a particular love narrative — a cherished fantasy that interferes with the reality of their situation. Today, let me show you the false love narrative that holds these single evangelical women back — and how far they’re willing to go to hang onto it.
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Single Evangelical Women Ask ‘Where Have All the Good Men Gone’
Reading Time: 9 minutes I recently ran across a 2008 book by A.J. Kiesling called ‘Where Have All the Good Men Gone?’ Its subtitle reveals its main focus: ‘Why So Many Christian Women Are Remaining Single.’ And we’ll all be happy to know that she landed on some explanations for the growing number of frustrated single women. Today, I’ll offer up a review of this book — and present its main failing, an over-reliance on false narratives.
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Denial in the Great Husband Hunt: An Evangelical Horror Story
Reading Time: 12 minutes Hi and welcome back! Today, as we’ve been doing for a while now on Halloween, we turn our attention to one of the biggest horror stories in evangelicalism: the Great Evangelical Husband Hunt. This year, our tale centers on the husband-hunting evangelical women who’ve reached the denial phase of their failed hunt. (Some previous posts about […]
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Jesus Told This Complementarian Dude To Marry Me
Reading Time: 7 minutes Hi and welcome back! Lately, we’ve been focusing on a doctrine in authoritarian Christianity called complementarianism. This doctrine informs much of right-wing Christians’ thought processes and behavior. Especially for complementarian men, their doctrine writes them an easy permission slip for so much of the awful stuff they want to do. Today, I want to show you how […]
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Josh Harris Is Kissing His Marriage Goodbye
Reading Time: 9 minutes Coming as it did right near the height of evangelical dominance in America, courtship culture rapidly achieved widespread acceptance in that crowd. But recently, a new development has demonstrated just what a terrible system it has been–even for Josh Harris, its creator.
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The Husband Hunt: An Evangelical Horror Story
Reading Time: 10 minutes Conservative Christian leaders have sold their female followers a bill of goods about marriage. Today, I’ll show you what that bill of goods contains, and how it’s hurt the women who believe it. It’s a horror story that beats werewolves, vampires, ghosts, and goblins–because it’s real, and it’s happening right now to millions of women.
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Existential Panic About Modern Dating
Reading Time: < 1 minute Modern dating can be stressful, confusing, taxing, and so on. Late at night, Luna considers if she’s doing things right or overthinking again.
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What Men Don’t See
Reading Time: 10 minutes Earlier this past week I asked my friends on Facebook what they would change if they could somehow change one thing about the dating process. A number of men intimated they wish it were a more common expectation for women to make the first move, like the way that it works on Bumble. So the […]