Reading Time: 7 minutes I know I’ve touched on the topic of soulmates before, but I ran across a study the other day that sparked a lot of thinking that I’d like to “just share” with y’all. In my freshman year of high school, my family lived in Mobile, Alabama, a city I absolutely hated. I didn’t have a […]
The Unequally Yoked Club: Going Nuclear.
Reading Time: 9 minutes I had this big long old post I was doing about exactly how my time in the UYC came to an grueling end, but for various reasons (including that Biff is one of those tiresome dipsticks who threatens lawsuits every time he feels slighted), I decided to gloss over a lot of that drama. Here’s […]
The Unequally Yoked Club: The Bargaining Table.
Reading Time: 10 minutes After Biff figured out that I was quite serious about having deconverted, the bargaining phase of his grief cycle began. It took a little while for me to realize that his goal was nothing less than to get me to step foot back inside a church, with the assumption that once I did, his god […]
The Unequally Yoked Club: Questioning Assumptions.
Reading Time: 9 minutes This’ll be a brief post about assumptions I operated under when I was a Christian. These assumptions were a sort of mental voicemail message that played all the time in my head, in the background, under my radar. They were unquestioned and unexamined–just there. I think a lot of the time, Christians–especially the kind in […]
The Unequally Yoked Club: Tell Me What You Want (What You Really, Really Want).
Reading Time: 11 minutes The most powerful thing two people can do is really communicate. When there’s a veil in between them, it’s much harder to do that. Not impossible, but a lot harder. I discovered that truth in the early days of my membership in the Unequally Yoked Club (UYC). There’s a reason Christians find the imagery around […]
The Unequally Yoked Club: When Promises Must Be Broken.
Reading Time: 9 minutes Remember what I mentioned last time about promises? We’re going to talk about that a little more today. There’s something about promises that I need to show you.
The Unequally Yoked Club: You Didn’t Sign Up For This.
Reading Time: 13 minutes Before we can really get into the meat of this post, I need to say a few words first about the fundamentalist view of promises, because I don’t think most people outside that mindset will understand fully until this stuff’s on the table. I’ve talked before about the things that drew me to fundamentalism, namely […]
Losing the Plot (and Plotting the Loss).
Reading Time: 12 minutes You know, every so often right when I think that toxic Christians are starting to catch on to how obvious it is to outsiders that they want to control all the rest of us, they top themselves with a new entry in that “I cannot believe they said that” contest they’ve been running for the […]
Redefining Words: Love
Reading Time: 13 minutes Christianity’s been quietly redefining the word “love” to the point where I can’t really be sure that any Christian I talk to who uses that word is actually using it in a way that I would ever recognize.
The Sky Has Fallen. Oh wait. Actually no it hasn’t. Well, maybe for some folks. And it’s about time!
Reading Time: 12 minutes One of the most interesting things to come out of the DOMA decision this week has been seeing how various factions of Christianity have been handling the spanking they got at the belts of the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS). Here’s a quick primer on just what got changed, if you need it. […]