Reading Time: 10 minutes Today, I want to show you a doozy: a Christian guy who lost his top because I didn’t change my last name after marrying Mr. Captain. Along the way, we’ll travel down Memory Lane, look at some statistics, and make a wild stab of a guess about why complementarians hate this trend about as much as they hate no-fault divorce.
If Only Gary Smalley’s Fans Knew (What a Hypocrite He Was)
Reading Time: 12 minutes As I read this book, I began noticing a lot of problems with it. The most disturbing of those problems must surely be Gary Smalley’s own descriptions of his own behavior in his own marriage. Today, let me show you why nobody should consider this charlatan any kind of authority about marriage.
If Only He Knew: The Huckster Fleecing These Sheep
Reading Time: 8 minutes Over the next week, I’ll show you just why Christian marriage advice is so pathetically awful. Today, we kick off the slumber party with a look at the author of If Only He Knew, and get an overview of what this book offers.
Everything You Ever Wondered About Spiritual Warfare
Reading Time: 9 minutes The notion of spiritual warfare isn’t new at all in fundagelicalism. In fact, it’s a go-to standby non-solution to everything that ails the Christians who buy into it. I bet you had no idea that the gaining of a happy family life hinges completely on spiritual warfare, either! Today, let me show you magical thinking at its very worst.
Keeping Up Appearances in the Cult of Family
Reading Time: 9 minutes Lately, we’ve been talking about authoritarian Christians’ new marketing push: the Cult of Family. Only these Christians know how to create and maintain happy families. Didn’t you know? But as we saw last time, these same Christians despise the values that go into that wondrous and rewarding task. They follow very different values. And they accidentally reveal, constantly, how those values turn out for them. Today, let me show you how toxic Christians let slip what their family lives really look like, and why they do it.
An Immodest Proposal
Reading Time: 5 minutes Imagine for a moment that you’ve been approached by an exceptionally attractive billionaire. Well, not by him personally, but by one of his employees. And he tells you that his wealthy employer wants to ask for your hand in marriage! It’s a lot to take in, right? I know. But it’s totally legit. It’s a […]
Relax, Everyone: This Christian Knows All About Compatibility (UYC)
Reading Time: 13 minutes As you’ll be overjoyed to learn, this Christian has totally figured out how people can tell if their significant other is good for the long haul. It’s not the advice itself that’s so cringe-inducing (though it very much is). It’s the attitude that went into the advice. Today, let me show you how one Christian refuses to allow reality anywhere near her best ideas.
The Worst Advice Biff Got from Christians About Marriage
Reading Time: 10 minutes If there’s one thing ex-Christians in the Unequally Yoked Club know, it’s that our Christian spouses get the worst ever advice about how to handle our deconversions. Of course, the advice they get before then is bad too. Today, I’ll show you the three worst pieces of advice my Christian then-husband received–and how it backfired dramatically on him.
The UYC: Hope in the Middle of Christian Hypocrisy About Marriage
Reading Time: 7 minutes The other day I was telling y’all that Christians increasingly pretend to be listening to their leaders, but then go do whatever they wanted to do anyway. Marriage and divorce definitely constitute two of the topics driving Christians to act like that. Today, here’s the war Christian leaders are fighting–and a very real sign that they are losing that battle.
The UYC: How Marital Compatibility is (Mis)Defined (LSP #50)
Reading Time: 10 minutes In toxic Christianity, couples determine compatibility in a totally different way than most other folks do. Those standards simply don’t work to produce long-lasting marriages. But toxic Christians gotta toxic. I’ll show you what those standards are today, and why they prove so disastrous for Christians.