Reading Time: 5 minutes Guilt is often something associated with the Catholic Church. However, according to many, it goes deeper and larger than that. Guilt can be seen as very much a western, cultural characteristic that is used to great effect in more individualistic cultures. Shame, on the other hand, can be seen as more of a collectivist cultural […]
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Leaving A God on Read (LSP #72)
Reading Time: 8 minutes Christians now have a whole new bad idea to torment people with. See, their god’s totally on social media, and gosh, we’re being so mean to him by leaving him on read receipt! Today, Lord Snow Presides over the newest bad idea getting installed in Christians’ heads.
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A TRUE CHRISTIAN™ Coach Reminds Us That Shaming Doesn’t Work (LSP #46)
Reading Time: 10 minutes If you haven’t heard of Dave Daubenmire, he is every single thing you need to know to know that Christianity is a terrible religion that produces terrible people. Today I’ll show you the latest crazypants thing he’s gotten up to. He might have failed at his #1 task in life (raising a good future adult), but he sure ain’t letting that stop him.
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Why Christianity Works So Well (On Some of Us)
Reading Time: 8 minutes When talking about my past relationship with Christianity, I talk a lot about shame. When I think back over the thirty-odd years I lived as a Christian, as far back into my childhood as I can remember, what stands out most to me is the guilt and shame I carried for all my sins, past, […]
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The Pseudoscience of the Crisis Pregnancy Center
Reading Time: 11 minutes This section is a stunning demonstration of that strategy–as well as a disheartening look at the outdated and misapplied information that informs this perennial Christian culture war.
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If You Feel Broken, Try This Reframe
Reading Time: 2 minutes I have been reading and learning about emotional abuse lately, and telling someone they’re broken so that they internalize it is one form it takes.
Posted inGeneral, Sex & Gender
Teen Vogue Knocks It Out of the Park on Masturbation
Reading Time: < 1 minute Misinformation and stereotypes abound when it comes to masturbation. I’m glad that publications like Teen Vogue are stepping up to demystify the topic.
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Asserting Boundaries Isn’t the Same as Shaming Someone
Reading Time: 3 minutes I work on boundaries, and I study shame… can and do they intersect? Sure. But that doesn’t mean they automatically do, or must.
Posted inGeneral, Myth & Folklore, Sex & Gender
Sexually Transmitted Horns
Reading Time: 2 minutes No, I’m not talking about STIs, unless you’re gonna follow me down the folkloric rabbit hole into why a cuckold’s horns are sexually transmitted.
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AASECT 2017: Conference Reflections
Reading Time: 6 minutes Being a folklorist who’s also a sex educator presenting at a conference mainly geared toward sex therapists felt odd, but it was also wonderful.