Posted inDeath & Dying

Never waiting for the miracle

Reading Time: 7 minutes None of this would have landed in my purview if I hadn’t stepped out on Christmas Eve last year with the last of my seasonal food hampers. I knew that only folks having the roughest of times would be out during Nochebuena, a holiday that finds folks here, from the poorest to the richest, with […]

Posted inPinn Drop with Anthony Pinn

Grieving while disbelieving | Candace Gorham

“When you are grieving, you are just at the bottom of the barrel, you have minimal energy, you have minimal life in you. Grief is such an ugly, scary, lonely thing. Don’t use your precious little resources in that moment to battle with somebody because they say ‘God bless you,’ or even “Can I pray with you?’ If somebody is trying to give you the only thing that they can think of, I don’t see the point of responding out of anger.”

Posted inTrue Story

When absence outweighs presents: Grief and the holidays

Reading Time: 5 minutes “Nothing is something, where something is meant to be.” Nick Cave wrote those lyrics for Ghosteen, his album-length conversation with his dead son Arthur, and he was spot on. Even more, sometimes that nothing is everything. And loss alters everything, including our yearly observance of holidays. For many people, Thanksgiving and Christmas are already tough. […]

Posted inDeath & Dying

Marking one year without my son: Coping with death anniversaries

Reading Time: 5 minutes This entire column, not just this entry, merits a content warning. I write about suicide, depression, post-traumatic stress, and other serious topics. If you are having suicidal thoughts, please reach out to someone you trust, establish care with a therapist, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988), or go to your nearest emergency room. Please […]

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